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A Room of Her Own
Wed, May 14 2008
Advice
Mood:  hungry
Topic: poetry

One of my coworkers that was pregnant at the same time as me, who actually had a dream about me, found out she was pregnant again. She had tried to have a baby for so long and her son was a miracle. Being pregnant again, though not the best timing, was another miracle. Unfortunately, things went south very fast and she miscarried.

When another colleague told me about it, I was floored. I made a comparison to what happend to me, but my colleague said she knew what I went through was worse. She said, too, that she used to hate it when people would compare their miscarriages to my experiences (or offer such experiences up with their condolences). She said sometimes she would just have to leave the room.  I guess, unlike many people, she saw me everyday and knew how pregnant I was (7 months) and hard it must have been. Anyway, a nice thing to say. Especially since I thought everyone was being insensitive.

 Anyway, these events and this prompt have inspired me.

Advice to the Childless Woman

time heals
with red, fleshy scars

god has a plan
written like fire on my heart
Latin or pain or mystery

I am still young
but each month
is heavy and long
like my empty arms


Posted by mary at 4:21 PM EDT
Updated: Thu, Jun 5 2008 4:15 PM EDT

Sat, May 17 2008 - 8:54 AM EDT

Name: "Ingrid"
Home Page: http://ingridsteblea.wordpress.com/

So moving, Mary. This piece has such power.  I love the contrast you create between the well-worn platitudes everyone offers (time heals) and the reality (...red, fleshy scars). The last stanza in particular is wonderful; such emotional intensity here, contained in few words. A truly beautiful, heartbreaking piece.

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